Masturbating Is Not As Healthy As You Think

Masturbating Is Not As Healthy As You Think

Entire Female Population: “What happened to good old male chivalry?”

Men: Nothing, it still exists. Most of us are just at home playing X-box, swiping right to Tinder and yanking it to your scandalous Instagram profile.

Dating in 2016.

Tinder, Bumble, Happn, Coffee Meets Bagel, Grindr. They’re used in high anticipation for a match notification icon to appear. Someone might be DTF.

Online dating apps lead most millennials to the same zero sum gain. More often than not there isn’t a ‘happy ending.’ You invest time to swipe right (subjective to looks), go on non-organic dates to end where you started – on the toilet swiping mindlessly for the next match with hope you can get one off through real physical contact.

The art of masturbation.  

Guys. Why invest time swiping cell phone screens in hopes of a real orgasm? You can realize it in minutes, if not seconds by using your hands in another way. 

I'm a single male in my 20’s. Masturbation is my escapism. It leaves me with a happy ending and dopamine rush more consistently than any potential online dating match. Although I must admit, sometimes I get a bit hard when I see a tinder match notification appear on my locked screen saver.

They nailed it with that fire icon.

Thanks to my high testosterone levels, YouPorn, PornHub, RedTube, 1080P, high speed internet and weak self-control, masturbation became a part of life for me.

I remember it being a lot like this. 

I remember it being a lot like this. 

Via memegenerator.net

You never forget your first time.

I vividly remember the first time I choked the chicken. It wasn’t an ideal place to do it. Our family desktop computer was so conveniently (awkward as hell) placed in the kitchen. My parents had gone to work and my sister was still at school. There I was, home alone in our well-lit open kitchen. I closed the blinds and went at it.

I was worried my sister or parents might walk in while I was in flight. The excitement made me finish quick (real quick, unfortunately). That image would haunt them for a life time.  Headphones on, right hand holding a wad of Kleenex and left hand stroking One-Eye (my name for "it") like the world was going to end. Not exactly a Kodak moment.

When I ‘busted my first nut’ I was shocked to see something other than piss come out. It was at this moment, at the gentle age of twelve, I experienced the greatest and most intense feeling I’ve felt to date.

Like most guys after masturbating for the first time, I was addicted. It became second nature to watch porn and masturbate the minute I felt horny.

It’s completely natural though. Our entire existence is dependent on our need and desire to procreate. We see beautiful women every day and sex on TV, movies and music videos. How can you ignore the temptation to get one off?  

Reddit’s No Fap Challenge – Try it.

Ever heard of ‘No Fap’? It’s an online support community which hosts over 170K+ members who are trying to avoid pornography, masturbating or sexual intercourse. Sounds crazy right? Males are referred to as ‘fapstronauts’ and females as ‘femstronauts’. 

After hearing about this from a friend I decided to give it a shot. I wanted to see whether I could reap any of the numerous benefits I had read so much about from these brave people.

When I went cold turkey to join the No Fap community my friends thought I lost it. It wasn’t normal to them but I was convinced by the community to give it a shot. I lasted north over a month until I gave in. Talk about a volcanic eruption…

Interestingly enough when my left hand made its return to 'One-Eye' I used my imagination vs. watching porn. To my surprise, the pleasure my imagination yielded felt better than my regular climax with porn. The human brain is powerful. It only took my one head to satisfy the other.

You can read about the different benefits people realized when they abstained from masturbation on Reddit for yourself. For me, the most noticeable was an increased sense of confidence, energy and desire to engage with females. It brought out my inner alpha.

Moderation is key.

After my No Fap experience I realized the value of limiting the amount you self-indulge in porn and masturbation. It can become a confidence killing addiction. I used porn and masturbating as a scapegoat to avoid social settings and talking to girls. Who needs a female touch when you have your left hand? It’s an addiction that’s hard to recognize.

Engaging in pornography and masturbation vs. using your imagination or having physical sex can have negative longer term effects on your sex life.

It effects your mind and body. When you have sex with someone your body releases different hormones vs. when masturbating. Sexual intercourse evokes more than the act of physical sex. Intercourse with a partner allows for deep emotional intimacy/connection, a release of pheromones and much more. Real sex beats a homemade hand job any day.

Masturbating with the aid of pornography is like doing drugs. Ask anyone with a drug addiction and they will tell you how much they crave getting their next high. It’s as if nothing else matters besides when they’ll get their next hit.

As the high passes they begin to crash and want more. It’s a cycle that keeps repeating itself, and like drugs it leaves them in a state of withdrawal.

Gentlemen, lower your expectations.

Watching porn and masturbating sets an expectation of a fantasy sex life which rarely comes to fruition (for the average Joe aka most of us). If you’re a virgin you’ll think sex is full of endless pleasure. Don’t be fooled. You won’t make your partner orgasm with a few thrusts. You’ll have to last more than a few minutes. You’re probably not fit enough to maneuver into half of those Kamasutra positions.

Sex is a beautiful thing. It takes time, trust, practice and a full emotional connection to realize its true pleasure. Take porn for what it is, extremely exaggerated entertainment.  It’s not to say sex isn’t fun, it’s hands down the most enjoyable activity on this planet. You won’t realize your potential during your first time at bat if your knowledge and experience with the art is limited to porn and masturbation.  

FUN FACT:  A 2011 study by the National Institute of Health found if a man abstained from masturbating for seven plus days his testosterone levels increase by up to 45%. Next time you plan to have a night out with some females drop the screen for a week and crush it. 

What a time, to be a guy.  

We’re not living the same lifestyles as our parents and previous generations. They didn’t have access to pornography like we do. Think about it, we can easily pull out our smart phones and masturbate in a public washroom while streaming an HD porno. Talk about instant gratification. The older generations relied on Playboy magazines and VHS tapes.

Think it’s a coincidence that there has been a rise in the number of 20-something males who are experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED)? A driving factor is how accessible porn is and how easy it is to slip away and rub one out on command.

It’s so available men get desensitized when it comes to the real deal. They have trouble getting aroused on an emotional level when they are with an intimate partner. It’s frightening to think men in their 20's, with testosterone levels of elementary school aged children, are considering taking pills such as Viagra.

You don't want to end up like Don Jon.  He couldn't get enough.

You don't want to end up like Don Jon.  He couldn't get enough.

Via Hollywood Reporter

Let me wrap it up and finish.

Porn and masturbation is an addiction. Whether you allow the combination to take over your life is your choice. This is a simple reminder, everything is best done in moderation. If you’re rubbing one too frequently it may be time to consider the No Fap challenge. It could change the way you look at women for the better. 

Guys - To get real women put the screen and your little friend down the next time you get the urge.

All you need to do is show up, be present, spark a conversation and not be a weirdo. You’ll get with more girls than you ever could via any dating app. Nothing arouses a female more than a candid, unexpected spark of your confidence and charm.  

Let your competition stay at home spanking the midnight shift away while you’re making your own movie. Trust me, you'll thank yourself for it.

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